unexpected

We were kind of planning on doing an IVF cycle in September, including a biopsy and freezing.  The genetic counsellor was a stepping stone.  I have been procrastinating the call to the clinic.

Today I finally bit the bullet and called.  My period is due next week sometime (anywhere from Monday to Thursday) so need to sort stuff out soonish.  But I needed to make sure a biopsy could be done on the embryo(s). The nurse was going to call me back tomorrow, instead I got a call today.

The director of embryos, who would do the biopsy, is away that week we would expect to have embryos.  It is a no go on a September cycle.

I am. Not relieved, but I am not sad.  I wasn’t super focused on the cycle, which shows.  It gives us one more month to attempt a freebie baby.

benchmarking

I went for a walk at lunch, in my new shoes.  This was intended to be a benchmark walk, so I can make valuable comparisons in the future.  I am/was aiming for a goal of 10 min/km ultimately.  I was expecting to do around 12 min/km considering the first quarter km is on a narrow street, watching out for cars, and then waiting to cross a busy road.

I managed 10.42 min/km.  Which is a significant improvement on the 15 min/km I managed last Tuesday, the 12 plus minute per km I did in the fun run and the 13.55 min/km I did the week before that.  Shoes matter.  No incipient shin splints means a better walking pace.

So, my goal is actually pretty close, and I can then aim for 9 minutes.

microblog Monday- sorting woes

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I sorted through my crafting stuff this weekend. We are heading to Fabric-a-brac next Saturday and I want to be able to get rid of the stuff I don’t want/need.

It’s hard.  One of the issues was how tempted I was to sit down and do the projects instead of sorting.

I am trying to finish the current project first.

I know I have more projects than I will ever complete, but I love thinking about the potential.

 

the odds are not in our favour

We both had a day off work today.  I originally planned this as simply a day off, knowing we have had a run of busy weekends.  But I had forgotten that today was our genetics counselor appointment.

So we slept in, went into town and had lunch then slogged to the appointment.  He explained some genetic and IVF stuff.  Nothing new, I have a university genetics course I took and the embryologist at the clinic gave us a talk as well, and basically the basic intro to genetics doesn’t change much. 

But what blew my mind, our odds of a successful pregnancy from a cycle with PGD (per embryo? I didn’t ask) are between 10-15 %. Ouch. And still better than someone older.  The guy was also not definitive on whether we need to do this.  We are talking about it because 4 miscarriages plus 3 failed IVF cycles is a flag that something is wrong. But the genetics report on the two miscarriages where we were able to test are both normal, and we have gotten pregnant normally.  

So he was on the fence- yes, we might get better results, but it is expensive and a bit risky.

Just great.  Still not sure.

10 books

So, there is this meme going around farcebook about 10 influential books, or movies.  I have been tagged.  But I am not a fan of posting on the book of face.  So, putting it here.

Books that have stuck with me

Some of these will be children’s books- books can have a much bigger impact as a child

1. Pride and prejudice- Jane Austen.  There is just so much to get out of the book, it was once the only book I took on a three day solo hike.  

2. Alanna- Tamora Pierce. One of the first fantasy books I read, with a very strong heroine

3. Warrior’s Apprentice- Lois McMaster Bujold. I would list the whole series if I could. Books that both entertain and make you think.  

4. Guards, guards – Terry Pratchett. Not the best of his, but the book that got me hooked on discworld.  Another author who entertain and make you think

5. My fathers dragon- Ruth stiles gannet. My second grade teacher read this to the class, and many many years later I tracked the series down ( in japan)

6. The drawing of the dark- Tim Powers- beer saves the western world.

7. Fire and Hemlock- Diana Wynne Jones- another author who I want to include all of her books.  Elements from this rebelling  of Tam Lin pops into my head at random moments.

8. To say nothing of the dog- Connie Willis. It is a toss up between this time travel romp and the awesome Bellwether.  Both really good.

9. In the garden of Iden – Kage Baker.  This is another one where it is the series, rather than individual books

10. Once a hero- Elizabeth Moon. A space opera book that convinced me to try others ( with varying levels of success). You can hide from your true personality, but under pressure, it will come out.

 

A List of 10 books, but ask me on another day and it may change.

making comparisons

I was thinking about this over the weekend, but a news item threw it into relief.  We constantly make comparisons. Or ourselves, of others, in general.  What I realised this weekend is that I need to disconnect from that.

I have gained a lot of weight over the past few years.  It’s not good. But I need to not compare myself to others, and also not compare myself to the me of five years ago.  What matters is the comparison with last week, last month.  Can I improve?

Fitness is another area I struggle with.  I was sad to realise that I finished the fun run this weekend with fewer than 1000 people behind me (from 16000). Not impressive.  But I can’t compare myself with others on this.  I need to look at what I can improve against myself now.  Going from 13 minutes per kilometre to 11 is a start. 

And fertility.  Another area to compare.  I can remember the royal wedding.  We were already launched on our IF journey when that happened.  And they still beat us to baby 1, and now we have been lapped.  Sigh.  This is very had, not to compare. To everyone else who seems to have it easy.  Pregnancy after 35? No problem.  First IVF cycle, of course it’s positive. Trying for 2 months.  And blammo.  It’s harder to stop the comparisons, because in this case, we have so little to improve against.

#Microblog Monday- weekend achievements

I could write a Longer post on both of these, but not yet.

On Saturday we went to OzComicCon and someone from the online news site took our photo!

I did find it interesting, a few women complimented me on my Cosplay, but no pics apart from the professional photographers.  And the women who commented on my costume were all older.

Edit: link not working so  http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/entertainment/punters-steal-the-show-at-brisbane-oz-comiccon-20140906-10dftu.html

I want to include a copy, but not sure of copyright issues, so link it is

And on Sunday we walked in the Bridge to Brisbane race

I am not happy with my/our time, but I did get shin splints

Time

So, a busy but productive weekend.  

 

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