We are off to japan for Christmas! Just before we left there were a lot of stories on TV about the ten year anniversary of the Boxing Day tsunami. I hadn’t known how many people from Australia were involved, because I lived in Japan at the time.
Ten years ago, it was my last Christmas in Japan. I traveled to Shikoku by myself. It’s the smallest of the four main islands, and it’s haunted. Until the 1990s the only way to reach it was by boat- no bridges or tunnels. Historically it was an island that people fled to when they fell out of favour politically. It is also famous for the pilgrimage circuit – 88 temples to visit. I can remember my mother calling me to see if I was affected by the tsunami (japan was not at all) and that was the first I heard about it. But the hotel I remember being in for that call was one I stayed in several days after the tsunami. Not sure why it took so long, or if my memory is faulty. That holiday was one I really enjoyed, even though I was traveling by myself. So I am circling back to a country and time I remember happily, even though it is an anniversary of a traumatic event for many.
The last time my husband and I spent Christmas in Japan was three years ago, 2011. It was the Christmas before we started ivf- the decision had been made, we knew we would be kicking it off once we returned. So it is a little bittersweet to be going back three years later with nothing to show for that effort. That was also a happy holiday. Very different from Christmas in Australia.
So we are returning, hoping for a nice relaxing holiday. Again, we know we will be doing a new IVF cycle in the new year, this time with donor eggs. So looking towards the unknown again. The thing about circling round is you do know some of the pitfalls, and some of the sweet spots. I have a better idea of what next year may bring, both the good and the bad.