Still struggling

I started writing this last Wednesday (nov 2) buts taken me a while…

I got a call from the obstetrician who we were seeing today.  There were no abnormalities with my d&c and the chromosomal analysis  was normal.  Just like all the others. Although this time the doctor did say that this didn’t mean there was a genetic abnormality, but that it wasn’t a a gross chromosomal level. So short of highly intensive genetic analysis (which may not be an available thing) we will continue to have no idea.

I don’t know where to go from here. We have seen the fertility specialist and we do have an IVF plan, for when we want.  We could go down the path of sperm donor as well.  We could stick with our own stuff but do emetic analysis. We could do nothing.

I don’t know.  

I don’t know if I can say I am depressed, but I am not functioning at a normal level either.

after that election, I am somewhat grateful I don’t have a child.  I am genuinely scared that we are headed for a global conflict, or at the very least problems that are going to get worse…

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Some thoughts.  In 2010 I worked as an election official in a federal election in Australia, where we narrowly re-elected our first female prime minister.  It Some thoughts.  In 2010 I worked as an election official in a federal election in Australia, where we narrowly re-elected our first female prime minister.  It was so narrow that the result, in the end, was decided by the few independent MPs.  What I noticed that day was that at the end of the day when we counted the ballots by hand, was that the conservative parties had election observers present but the left did not.  At least one of the observers was the adult son of another observer.  The conservative party was better at indoctrinating their message. Lefty, social justice parties are not so good.

In part this is for very good reasons- we believe that everybody has the right to an opinion and a voice, and we tolerate others’, even as we disagree (or at least this is my view on this element).  Conservative parties are much less tolerant of others opinions, they are like the bossy person in a meeting who will not let others disagree.  They win because they are so focused on making sure that their opinion dominates.  In order to preserve liberal democracy, this tendency has to be overcome.

Progressive politics racked up an amazing number of wins in the USA (and worldwide) in the early 20th century.  These were achieved largely by women, despite the fact that they often did not have the vote (that was one of the wins). How can we do that again?

Those of us who live comfortable lives often forget how hard-won those are, and how fragile they are for others.  If you are upset with this election, don’t bunker down in your safe suburb, or in your group of like-minded friends.  Go out and be the action you want.  Make noise. so narrow that the result, in the end, was decided by the few independent MPs.  What I noticed that day was that at the end of the day when we counted the ballots by hand, was that the conservative parties had election observers present but the left did not.  At least one of the observers was the adult son of another observer.  The conservative party was better at indoctrinating their message. Lefty, social justice parties are not so good.

In part this is for very good reasons- we believe that everybody has the right to an opinion and a voice, and we tolerate others’, even as we disagree (or at least this is my view on this element).  Conservative parties are much less tolerant of others opinions, they are like the bossy person in a meeting who will not let others disagree.  They win because they are so focused on making sure that their opinion dominates.  In order to preserve liberal democracy, this tendency has to be overcome.

Progressive politics racked up an amazing number of wins in the USA (and worldwide) in the early 20th century.  These were achieved largely by women, despite the fact that they often did not have the vote (that was one of the wins). How can we do that again?

Those of us who live comfortable lives often forget how hard-won those are, and how fragile they are for others.  If you are upset with this election, don’t bunker down in your safe suburb, or in your group of like-minded friends.  Go out and be the action you want.  Make noise.